tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post2096012504591503652..comments2023-12-26T02:13:41.902-08:00Comments on Cynic in Wonderland: Closed Door CrossroadsCynic in Wonderlandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17544348501114907088noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-10398952602914849922010-01-04T05:49:28.357-08:002010-01-04T05:49:28.357-08:00Have similar situation with a friend who is dating...Have similar situation with a friend who is dating a guy for the past 4 years. Of a different religion. They are considering a breakup to avoid parental disapproval and the taunts that will follow.rehabhttp://www.outlandishmusings.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-11233819461575173062009-06-16T23:00:34.968-07:002009-06-16T23:00:34.968-07:00I did a little more investigation on this topic an...I did a little more investigation on this topic and thought i should post an update..<br /><br />the term 'queer' has recently been 'reclaimed' as an acceptable word to described people of alternate sexualities. It is thus NOT politically incorect as stated in my previous comment.<br /><br />I personally do not like using the word queer (vis a vis 'straight') - I prefer to use the GLBT term.See Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09968385538752541621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-19017489355360437222009-05-23T11:18:11.740-07:002009-05-23T11:18:11.740-07:00the term 'queer' is considered politically incorre...the term 'queer' is considered politically incorrect by many factions - GLBT is more acceptable. but 'queer' is still used by many GLBT groups the same way african-americans use the term 'nigga' between each other.<br /><br />'coming out' is hardly creepy - it's to show the opposite of 'being in the closet'. You either stay there or you come out of it...<br /><br />He should either come out and deal with his family, or marry someone who is willing to let him be - a marriage of convenience if you may...See Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09968385538752541621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-84524793733789738142009-05-15T06:24:00.000-07:002009-05-15T06:24:00.000-07:00Our legal system is still way too immature to hand...Our legal system is still way too immature to handle such an issue, let alone our society. I remember the recent furore over deletion of Section 377 when a lot of senior politicians had argued against it and said that it was needed to stop "unnatural" practices. How the hell is it unnatural? And I suppose it is VERY natural for random people to poke their noses into what people do in their bedrooms. <br />As a society, we're still a long way from the stage where we'll accept anyone who hasn't followed the "right" track - proper college education, "good" career, marriage, kids - as someone just like us. Till then, we'll keep inventing imaginary diseases and will continue to whine about "unnatural things" to keep our perspective on top.Drenchedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03098715119908240170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-15678518278397776702009-05-14T10:22:00.000-07:002009-05-14T10:22:00.000-07:00Hi,Cyn-well,that's a toughie,specially in our coun...Hi,Cyn-well,that's a toughie,specially in our country's context..where the family's attention is always focused on the son-their hopes,aspirations,dreams..everything..and,to find out that the guy is gay probably shatters their dreams...ah well,traditions are hard to get rid of.Frankly,I think people should believe in the dictum of 'to each his or her own'-even where such 'prefences' are concerned...life's too short to let it affect one's own happiness or anyone else's,isn't it?<br />-----<br />Incidentally,on the flip side of this topic,what do you think reactions would be to a female behaving 'gaily'?(I don't want to use the word'les..', coz they're banning sites with such 'smut'words out here shortly..hehe)AmitLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01315443741450983388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-39309833313322226352009-05-13T22:23:00.000-07:002009-05-13T22:23:00.000-07:00While acceptance is gaining, it is largely restric...While acceptance is gaining, it is largely restricted to the metro's a cities. <br /><br />Last year, i overheard several discussions about a cousin whose marriage was getting delayed. They felt he has different tendencies. What was appalling is the fact that everyone whought that it is a disease/ condition, one which can be cured by a doctor/ phsychiatrist.There was a plan drawn out to put him through treatment, and then have the marriage.In love with my lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10219012182585817330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-67383703465898598262009-05-12T11:25:00.000-07:002009-05-12T11:25:00.000-07:00Most people in conflict zones live their lives nor...Most people in conflict zones live their lives normally, knowing well that they can continue living <I>normally</I> by side-stepping a few landmines. <br /><br />That's not denial of the conflict, simply an acknowledgement of the fact that it may not end and doesn't necessarily need to be fought. <br /><br />A lady contained her live-in relationship by simply wearing a mangalsutra. <br /><br />Agree with Nandini Vishwanath, sensible thing would be to stay unmarried.VBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14742613060025843240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-56172722403006280932009-05-11T20:43:00.000-07:002009-05-11T20:43:00.000-07:00C'mon cynic...we as a society are not even mature ...C'mon cynic...we as a society are not even mature enough to handle issues of straight people like single parents, divorce and dowry...I think we are a LONG way away from "accepting" people who are not "normal". I can't really relate with what they may face as I don't know anyone who is gay but I think their "movement" needs an in your face kinda person to just hammer the people around with the message...eventually people will just get used to it and let them be...Epiphanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09299278033220632644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-35323597511437989862009-05-11T18:03:00.000-07:002009-05-11T18:03:00.000-07:00Great post cynic - it's still a difficult decision...Great post cynic - it's still a difficult decision to make either way.<br /><br />People are just afraid of the unknown, the different to what they have always percieved as 'normal'. It goes for many forms of discrimination like race as well (and in our culture more subtlely with our obesseion with being fair).<br /><br />I'd like to believe that being true to oneself would win in the end, just as much as true love...but reality is usually a lot more heartbreaking. <br /><br />You should send this post into Gaysi (http://gaysifamily.com/) :)Sighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14098437493811974422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-47317334133552860202009-05-11T13:08:00.000-07:002009-05-11T13:08:00.000-07:00Inspite of education people still behave so ignora...Inspite of education people still behave so ignorantly. And true I would blame media for making fun of Homosexuals and lesbians and typecasting them more as buffoons rather than people with feelings and emotions just like us.Vinita Aptehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06549627033763568859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-73892958539265497402009-05-11T10:30:00.000-07:002009-05-11T10:30:00.000-07:00Hmm...if I were him and I was not bold enough to '...Hmm...if I were him and I was not bold enough to 'come out,' I'd probably want to stay unmarried. You know?<br /><br />But its a tough decision to make even in the US, frankly. The only difference here is that people let you be, but do make fun of you. A was telling me that a guy from Alabama - a student along with him told him once that vegetarians in the South are considered gay. Can you believe that?Nandini Vishwanathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08191678360010655394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-84043188160641379842009-05-11T09:48:00.000-07:002009-05-11T09:48:00.000-07:00Very true - your lines on the emotional investment...Very true - your lines on the emotional investment parents have in their children. If one lives the life they have envisioned, they are happy, but what about being true to oneself? Very difficult choice, especially for a "well-brought up" middle-class Indian.Meenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15533336112530518752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1985300941233806528.post-4671499484946753102009-05-11T09:01:00.000-07:002009-05-11T09:01:00.000-07:00From what I know, people - and esp. families of ga...From what I know, people - and esp. families of gay individuals - are becoming increasingly more aware and tolerant of homosexuality. The initial shock/denial is probably expected, but apparently they do come around.<br /><br />Of course, we have a long way to go before we could say India is tolerant in this regard, but well, this is a start. <br /><br />gAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com